From Facebook to Snapchat, you have had an active presence on social media for years. It is part of your daily routine to post pictures and updates about your children's achievements and activities as well as your personal challenges and accomplishments. From pictures of your family vacation in Europe to the summer lake house you purchased last year, you are not shy about sharing your status.
This is something that you and millions of other people do every day. Not only do you use social media to keep people informed about your life, but you also use it to keep track of what is going on with your friends and family.
While it seems harmless enough, now that you and your husband have decided to get divorced, you might be tempted to let the world know about every wrong deed your future ex committed. It may feel like a wonderful release at first, however airing your dirty laundry may have repercussions far into the future.
Navigating a divorce can be a very difficult process, full of complex procedures and emotional turmoil. Before you let anger influence your decisions, be sure to consult a local Illinois attorney to help guide you through the divorce process.
Read below for tips on navigating social media during divorce.
Sleep on it
How you feel today may not be how you feel tomorrow. If you are tempted to make a negative post regarding your future ex-husband or your impending divorce, take a step back before you hit "post." Keep in mind that even if you delete the post, friends and family may have already seen it.
Another important thing to consider is that a negative post about your ex can be used against you. Your future ex-husband may be able to use the post as evidence that you have questionable judgment. He can also use this during a custody battle to prove you may not offer the best environment for your children.
Remember the children
An anger fueled rant about your husband can also have a lasting effect on your children. Even if they do not have their own social media profiles, your children might overhear friends or family discussing your post.
Regardless of the state of your relationship with your husband, it is best to keep your children out of the conflict. They should have the opportunity to have a positive relationship with their father without the influence of your anger.
Portray yourself the way you want to be seen
If you have previously been portraying yourself with admirable qualities, displaying strong negative emotions on social media may cause people to doubt you. Instead of making your emotions public, write them down in a journal to get the cathartic release you need.
If you need to express yourself vocally, consider joining a support group or seeing a therapist. Another option is to talk to a close friend or family member that you trust to be discreet while also providing emotional support.
Divorce can be very complicated, from asset division to child custody issues. For advice on handling your divorce, contact a local Illinois attorney experienced with family law.