You and your friends are close based on similar backgrounds, interests or demographics - or maybe a combination of all three. We like to take advice from our friends. Friends are a great source of sympathy and honesty when we need it most. But, when going through a divorce, the best advice is often left to family law professionals.
Our friends might tell us things like, "Oh, Sarah said when she went through her divorce it was...." or "Jeff and his wife had a bitter divorce. It cost him 75 percent of his 401K!" Because they're your friends, you might be inclined to believe that the stories they tell will apply to your divorce too.
Because your friends are similar to you in some way, they likely have the same biases or thought process. They don't want to turn you off to your feelings, but they could lead you down the wrong path. Your friends mean well; but, for better or worse, they're wrong.
Your situation is unique.
You are not Sarah. You are not Jeff. You are you, and your situation is unique. Do not make choices during a divorce that could have costly financial or legal consequences later in the proceedings. Do not take advice that could alter your expectations about your settlement. Speak to a legal professional first.
Even if your friend is a legal or financial professional, they may not have specific expertise in family law or asset division. Instead, rely on a respected and experienced family law firm. Keep your friends around for the fun, but depend on a family law attorney to handle the stress of divorce.