Emotions run high in divorce proceedings. Your natural response might be to solve the problem that is causing the negative emotions quickly. However, "just making it go away" is not be the best approach when filing for divorce.
In your marriage, you have built up assets, property and, perhaps, a family. Despite the impending asset division, there is a future beyond your divorce. While you are probably looking forward to that future, it is important not to quickly change life for yourself or your family without a prior arrangement.
Taking the time to talk to an attorney who will manage your divorce with care can improve the outlook of your life beyond marriage.
Communicate your wishes
What assets do you want to keep from your marriage? How will you arrange custody with the kids? These are important questions to ask yourself before a divorce because there are steps you are likely unaware of in the legal process to securing your wishes.
Therefore, you should speak to an attorney who will take you step-by-step through the proceedings. If you are honest in your desires, your attorney can do his/her best work to attain them.
Stay in control of your assets
An attorney will help you arrange the division of assets such as property and retirement funds. However, it may be tempting to spend extra cash on hand to keep it away from your spouse.
Spending this money in the form of gifts or gambling can be a source of pleasure in a time of emotional turmoil, but it could lead to more legal or financial restraints later in the proceedings.
Taking the proper steps to arranging assets and child custody that fit your life is the best way to a clean break from your marriage. Just because a friend worked his divorce out one way doesn't mean that it is right for your situation.
Do it once, do it right
Maintaining a sense of normalcy to your life outside of marriage is important during a divorce. Routine events like a weekly golf game with friends can help you keep a sense of self even when your home life is in flux.
Although your marriage may be beyond reconciliation, the issues created by divorce can be solved with the proper guidance. If you don't have time to make an arrangement now, will you have time in the future?