No matter how hard you try to keep things consistent and stable, a divorce in Illinois will lead to changes that may have your kids struggling. They may have to go to a new school, find new friends and not see both their parents every day. Kids at different ages will handle divorce differently, but if you are living in two separate homes now, there are ways to help your kids feel more comfortable in both homes. suggests that you let your children have a say in how the new home is established. You could let them pick out furniture for the new house or even let them decorate their own bedrooms. If you are redecorating, allow them to pick out new sheets or a new paint color.

If you are the non-custodial parent and your children are not at your house as often as your ex’s, it is important to make sure the place feels familiar to them, rather than just somewhere they visit every other week. Children are often overwhelmed by too much change, so try to replicate special items in your new home. If your child has a special blanket or stuffed animal, find a similar one to keep at the new home. Even simple things like a favorite toothbrush or drinking cup can make a huge difference.

Finally, keep your kids informed about when they will be with each parent. Have a calendar in each house with the different days clearly marked so your kids know where they will be and when. A visible, written schedule is helpful for everyone and allows your child to adjust to any schedule changes.

Parenting from two separate homes can be difficult. If both parents are committed to the children, avoid competition and stay on the same page, the process flows much easier.

This is for educational purposes and should not be interpreted as legal advice.