When you decide to marry another person, you do not want to consider what would happen if that marriage dissolves. Still, many couples recognize the importance of a prenuptial agreement, despite the heaviness of the conversation.
A prenup is a private agreement, explains Forbes, that a couple signs to dictate what happens to their assets if they divorce or if one spouse dies. When approaching a prenup conversation, avoid these mistakes.
Wait until the last minute
First, if you wait until the last minute to have the conversation, it can lead to tension between you and your fiancé. Worse over, you could have your prenup overturned if you wait until right before the wedding. Once you are engaged or even before the engagement, you should discuss finances and prenups.
Treat the conversation nonchalantly
Prepare for a difficult and serious conversation with your future spouse. Discuss what you consider to be fair in the agreement. This is the time where you two will disclose all your assets. Prenups can also affect your separate property after you die. To talk about providing for a family after your death can be a heavy, but crucial conversation.
Focus on how the prenup protects you
Even if you do not mean to come across as greedy, your spouse may see red flags if you only focus on your benefits during the prenup conversation. The agreement can provide your spouse with security in the event of a divorce. Say that you two marry for 20 years, your spouse would not walk away empty-handed. A prenup does not mean that one spouse receives nothing.