Illinois parents like you want to limit the impact of divorce. Unfortunately, there is no way to completely eliminate the damage divorce does. But there are ways you can limit it.
Having a strong co-parenting strategy is one of those ways. If you work together and stay on the same page, you can do a lot to maintain your child’s health and well-being.
Be mindful of your presentation
Psychology Today focuses on one of the most crucial moments: breaking news of divorce to your child. This sets the tone for how your child will view and handle the rest of the divorce process. It is important to make a show of being on the same page. Do not contradict each other. Do not argue or speak over one another. Your child can pick up on discomfort, irritation and agitation. They will know if you are trying to fake it. Present a genuine, unified conversation with your child.
Know what information to provide
Do not hide or hold back important information, either. This includes knowledge of who will move out of the house and what the custody schedule may look like. It does not include personal details, like why the divorce occurred.
Moving forward, continue to present this unified front for your child. It carries significant importance for their health. This reassures them that you are still reliable. It lets them know that some things will not change, which is often a comfort when so many things are shifting. It also provides them with the support of both parents instead of just one. This is often crucial for a developing child’s mental health.