Divorce is difficult enough, but picking up the pieces in the aftermath can be its own challenge. Particularly if you have kids with your ex-spouse, you will be in a partnership with them of sorts for life.
The “traditional” co-parenting living situation does not work for everybody. Having two separate households and moving the children between them can prove very challenging. This is particularly true for families who have children with special needs who require certain medical equipment, or older children who simply resist the idea of moving back and forth so often. This is where a “nesting” situation is useful for some families.
What is nesting?
Nesting flips the traditional arrangement on its head. Rather than the children moving between Mom’s house and Dad’s house, the children stay in one residence and the parents do the work of moving in and out. The name comes from the idea of two parent birds flying in and out to attend to babies who stay in the same nest.
Who does this benefit?
Children who require special medical equipment may be very difficult to move between households. Plus, older children who have a lot of necessary accoutrements like musical instruments or sport equipment may be very frustrated when asked to move so constantly.
Nesting is also an option for families who live in very expensive areas. It is possible that both parents will not be able to support themselves as single entities in high-income living situations. In this situation, nesting allows the children to stay in the same school district with the same friends.